To be alive is to have your circumstances and, to varying degrees, your fate determined by men. But what does it mean to be a man? This, of course, is a question that has consumed literature, art, theater, fashion — all of society, in fact — for all of human history. But the definition of manhood, and, more broadly, maleness, is one that affects not just a single gender, but all genders. As long as we live in a patriarchal world (and we do), we are living with the consequences of how men feel allowed to express themselves: their power, of course, but also their fear and helplessness and sorrow. The revelations (by no means new, but newly discussed) of the past year are a devastating reminder that far too often women pay the price for men’s insecurities. Read more at The New York Times.